Bullying of older people is an overlooked issue

Leading neuroscientist and ageing specialist, Dr Lynda Shaw, has called upon the care sector to be more vigilant on the issue on bullying.

From her experience, Dr Shaw believes the issue is underestimated in terms of its impact on the older populace and warns that bullying of older people can exist in many different guises.

She explains: “With everyone facing increasing time limitations there is less of a chance for us to sit down and find out if there are any problems facing our loved ones. Bullying is also a bit of a taboo subject if you are the target because just saying you are being bullied makes most of us feel disempowered and weak. We need to stop and take the time to check everything is ok with our ‘elders and wisers’ and help them put a stop to bullying which is unacceptable regardless of type or age.”

Dr Shaw continues. “We are now more often hearing about instances where mothers are feeling victimised by their daughters, or grandparents are being mistreated by grandchildren. As we age and possibly feel more physically vulnerable we can feel disempowered and some disrespectful young people can take advantage of this. We are often frightened of losing our connection to the younger member of our family and in some cases just put up with the emotional abuse because of this fear.

“Parents will often find excuses for their children’s behaviour, but we need to encourage young people to take responsibility for their actions and the consequences. Our families are supposed to be the people who support us and keep us safe, but what happens when it is the very people who are supposed to be protecting us turn into the ones we need protection from?”

Dr Shaw concludes: “Sit them down and talk about what it is that is making them resentful and try and work together to find solutions to the problem instead of hoping that they will stop themselves. At the same time, we shouldn’t be afraid to ask for external help if the problem is getting too difficult to deal with by yourself. It is not a sign of weakness or failing if you need to ask for help.”

Dr Andy Hickson of Actionwork Nationwide, winners of the National Anti-Bullying Flame Award, agrees that anti-bullying campaigns should not be restricted to children, saying: “Everyone has the potential to get bullied. Old people can be especially vulnerable, particularly if they have to rely on others for support. The best support is not always available and there is a lot of abuse that some old people have to suffer from carers and family alike. It is important for everyone, young or old to find the people that care - remembering that there are people out there who care a great deal.”

More information can be found here: www.bully.org and www.antibullyingweek.co.uk